Oh look, Cathy Brennan totally not hating trans women.
What a fucking dirtbag.
Lot’s of love here… Yeah right!
Oh look, Cathy Brennan totally not hating trans women.
What a fucking dirtbag.
Lot’s of love here… Yeah right!
Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.
Spreading the word.
My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.
She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.
I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.
I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.
Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.
Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.
Get angry. Be in command.
I remember being new to Germany (around 16/17 yrs) and strange men placing their hands on my body - particularly my ass area - whenever I went out at night with my friends, or sometimes even casually strolling around the city during the day. This is SUCH disgusting behavior.
It’s so ridiculous though, that every time it happened, I would be so nice. I would either ignore them (if it was a slap), or if it was a lingering touch, I would gently remove their hand from my butt or thigh. Almost apologetic even, like I couldn’t look them in the eye. I felt like it was MY fault for wearing a skirt too short, or for wearing heels to high, or for being slightly tipsy in a place filled with men and it’s probably noticeable.
Regardless, it was never my fault.
Now, I’m a complete bitch whenever this happens. Okay not a bitch exactly and I’m working on developing more of that “attitude” thing, but I am definitely not apologetic for their asshole behavior. Ew, no more.
terfs talk about trans women being ‘men in dresses’
but I wear jeans
Fuck it. I am rocking my sweats today!
I do understand how and what and why and when and where the Structure of patriarchy and the acts of sexism work. Better than most of those “gender critical women” you are defending their use of violence understand such.
I will state, without reservation, that if your hypothetical 100% happened then well over half the violence against trans people — not just trans women, but especially for and around them — would end.
Yes, there would still be violence. Physical violence, institutional violence, even the social and psychological and exclusionary violence that comprise interpersonal stuff overlooked unless it is white cis women of means being beaten by their husbands.
But there would be much, much, much less.
That is the first task, in fact. The task that sits before all others. Ending that act of violence both institutional and interpersonal that fundamentally undermines the dignity and worth of trans people and justifies, excuses, and enables the denial of civil and human rights to trans people.
Trans women are not men. Trans men are not women. GNC folks can be neither men nor women or both men and women.
That is the first step to ending all the violence, and until that task is done, no violence will be stopped against trans people so arguing for that is promoting, engaging in, and supporting all the violence against trans women. It is absolute complicity.
Because that violence is what enables, promotes, justifies, and enables the physical violence.
So to argue that standing up to “gender critical women” who actively use gender to inflict and engage in violence against trans women is not only wrong and immoral and unethical, but supporting the very systems, the socially conservative ideals, and not being critical of gender, but instead being critical of gendered people in the same, existing ways that the rest of the world does it.
Let me explain something to you.
A woman broke up with her boyfriend. She cried and stressed and then went out to a club with some friends one night. Where she was shot twice in the back from a car. The driver of the car pulled up to where she was lying halfway in the gutter, in full view of dozens of witnesses, and proceeded to empty the rest of his clip into her.
While screaming that she wasn’t a real woman, she deserved it, she wasn’t even worth the bullets.
He then left. He has faced no charges because she wasn’t a real woman, because she deserved it, and the system supports it.
She was a trans woman. Her story is one, and I know you don’t care and are rolling your eyes because you agree with her murderer and you are excusing her murderer and you are not wanting to face your own complicity there.
Another story. They had been girlfriends for six years. They had toyed with getting married. They hit a rough patch when, at a company party, one of them outed the other. It resulted in an increase of sexual harassment, sudden drop in job performance ratings, unemployment. There was resentment. It turned into emotional abuse, which escalated until the trans woman vanished and the cis woman did too.
The cis woman is still gone. The Trans woman was found in her apartment strangled and drugged with spiked wine. Her death was reported as transvestite commits suicide.
That one you won’t find in the tvmm project archive because it was long, long ago. The Trans woman was the one outed. The Trans woman was the one being abused emotionally and verbally.
It is well known that once you strip your target of their dignity, you can do anything to them and justify it. The infamous experiments of prisoners and guards, the core studies of human rights, the basic principles of ethics and morals: if you can reduce their sense of self and worth as a member of society, you can find a way to justify anything.
If you think that trans women only suffer physical violence, you are a fucking asshole.
Let’s us look at what teams women face in terms of violence for a moment, shall we? Not because they are special but because they are seen as less than cis women, in part because they are called male and men.
To start, pediatric orgs have come to recognize that raising a Trans child as the wrong thing is child abuse and neglect. And they know this because of study after study after study and that adult survivors of child a use and neglect demonstrate specific issues. Issues which trans adults, and particularly trans women, have to within 3 points when studied.
So that vaunted socialization argument is victim blaming, because you are blaming trans women for being raised a certain way and it was damaging to them.
Now, you can hem and haw but that is violence and that is the start of the violence trans women face and it is because people try to raise them as boys instead of girls.
You don’t want to even start to understand what happens to most of them at puberty. That level of violence is beyond reckoning.
I don’t care if you believe that or not, either. What you be
I eve is irrelevant. It is a fact, and that is what matters.
Then they have to deal with the constant violence of the world around them as they are pushed further and further away from other people by the constant, matter of fact violence of calling them a man, or sir, or dude or guy, a thousand and more times a day as they fight and struggle and try to make sense of this mad world around them and then they transition.
At 20 or 25 or 30 or 35 or what ever age, and that act is, right there, right then putting them into a crisis point. The actual name for it is identity crisis, and the potential damage that can be done to a person going through one is enormous. You may know of a time that most people go through it that psychologically is tremendously important: we call it puberty.
They tart that and they run into people who literally do everything they can to be mean to them, to tell them how wrong and horrible and fucked up and ugly and nasty and stupid and crazy and guess what?
That is all violence as well, and then they find out the world is a really oppressive place and it is really fucked up and they have a choice.
They can do what they are told to do or they can be themselves.
Most choose to be themselves. They still have issues because transition doesn’t solve those issues, but neither does it cause them.
Again, this isn’t made up. This is the reality that those gender critical women you defend literally ignore and refuse to learn about.
While they attack people in a vulnerable state with violence.
There is a reason that the suicide rate among the general population is 1.6% while it is 41% among trans people. That reason is violence done to them that isn’t physical.
There is a reason that the group of women with the highest level of sexual harassment in the workplace at 91% is trans women. Why Trans women fear pretty much every social interaction in their lives and why it is that Trans people have enormous issues with trusting other people.
That reason is violence. Systemic, ongoing, persistent, ostracism is violence and they engage in every single one of the same behaviors that everyone who faces such do.
Which, oddly enough, includes those gender critical women, who are predictably engaging in the same behaviors.
Trans people do something about it.
That is the core problem, first and foremost and so calling trans women men or male is active misogyny, is violent, is aphysical interpersonal violence of the most common, most widespread sort.
It gives cover to the physical violence.
Which is why if what you hypothesize did happen, it would be a good thing, a great thing, an awesome thing because it would mean a lot less violence.
It would mean mothers raising their children with love instead of abuse and not causing themselves grief trying to figure out why their babies are getting more and more withdrawn.
It would mean an end to arguments of the anti-gay, since they rely on the exact same arguments your gender critical folks do and for good reason: the source of all of them is the same: Mary Daly and Janice Raymond.
It would mean an end to the explicit exclusion from the ADA of Trans people, it would mean an end to the lie that labeled a forty year old proven medical practice experimental that is just now being looked at after thirty more years.
It would mean an end to heartache and hardship of Trans women because so very much of it is social and interpersonal.
So pretending like it would end all violence is foolish. But denying that it would not end the worst of it is just being an ignorant transphobe.
— Edward Spencer in Clothes & the Man (1901)
Ukraine: Citizens take #Lugansk oblast administration and demand #March16 referendum
According to recent reports, the demonstrators stormed the Municipal Administration building in Lugansk on Sunday, brought down the Ukrainian flag and hoisted the Russian one instead.
They also urged authorities to hold a referendum over joining Russia.
Meanwhile, Lugansk’s governor has fled the city, and a pro-Russian figure has been elected as the city’s new governor, Russian media reported.
Pro-Russia rallies are also being held in Ukraine’s eastern city of Donetsk and across the autonomous region of Crimea.
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It is a beautiful Italian story of the retired teacher Antonio La Cava from Ferrandina (Italy) that runs the villages of Basilicata on his “Bibliomotocarro” to promote reading.
And the kids are waiting for him with enthusiasm. Antonio, bought a used Ape motorbike from Piaggio, he has modified it, filled it with books and called Bibliomotocarro. Every week he turn the villages of Basilicata and announce his arriving by the sound of an organ. In the squares children are waiting for him.
64 year old cosplayer, I’m not sure that is sad or cool, but he sure knows how to cosplay!
What do you mean sad, this is super cool!
How could you even consider this “sad”? Why, because he shares a passion that younger people do? For fuck sake, people can be passionate and enjoy just about anything despite what age they might be. Let people enjoy what they enjoy without labeling it “sad” because they are older. That’s some ageist shit right there.
P.S: This guy is fucking awesome. Look at those god damn costumes. Rock on, dude.
I like this guy, more peeps need to stay young at heart.
He’s just mad because he can’t acquire all the apple juice that I’m acquiring. (x)
i fucking love hannibal, and hes great on broad city too.